Great recommendations here, Mary. I'd heard of The Debt but forgotten about it. Happily, it is still available on Netflix, so I've added it to my 'watch list'.
Many moons ago, when I wanted to meet that 'special' person, I decided to start going to things that she would most likely go to as well. Not in order to actually meet someone there, but to indicate to the universe that I was serious about this!
Your choice of the Nabokov quote with his onomatopoeic use of “demure murmur” is perfection. It feels like the brush of a butterfly’s wings on the lips when spoken and like any good double negative, it falls in a manner that is neither demure nor a murmur but instead, like a murmuration it is dramatic, sexy and much louder than a whisper. It is a worthy example of the butterfly 🦋 effect… with the flap of a wing, worlds are altered.
I used to say, "I'm so up the butt of my folk's relationship no wonder I don't have enough time to have one of my own." And yet, now that they are gone, I realize I've been able to keep a love I had that started in 1996 alive and still hot. Over a quarter of a century. I knew him a decade before we got involved. We were never committed and yet, we've been that safe but extravagantly healing erotic hum that has deepened over time and the friendship has strengthened. I realized that some of my issues with it before were really my mother's issues with my dad. One of the best parts of living an examined life is as Rilke said, "...living into the answers." My folks needed a buffer. I no longer need to be a buffer for two who were so good to me. Another man that I had an ignition with in 1984 thought he was dying and reached out. My twelve years with cancer have taught me about radical remissions, epigenetics, and he is on a healing road. So much more emotionally cognizant than the other one. Each human has their gifts. Each relationship has their lessons. I really loved this article. It's deep and significant. Can't wait to read more of your gifts to the world.
Marvelous!
Plummer was one of my mom's favorite actors. So refined and eloquent. His autobiography is beautiful.
Lolita is in my top five novels of all time.
A synchronicity re butterflies: the "butterfly elevator" figures into my latest 'stack essay.
Also, Vlad's much-loved wife, Vera ... my mom's name.
Great recommendations here, Mary. I'd heard of The Debt but forgotten about it. Happily, it is still available on Netflix, so I've added it to my 'watch list'.
Many moons ago, when I wanted to meet that 'special' person, I decided to start going to things that she would most likely go to as well. Not in order to actually meet someone there, but to indicate to the universe that I was serious about this!
Oh, this is good Mary Tabor...
Your choice of the Nabokov quote with his onomatopoeic use of “demure murmur” is perfection. It feels like the brush of a butterfly’s wings on the lips when spoken and like any good double negative, it falls in a manner that is neither demure nor a murmur but instead, like a murmuration it is dramatic, sexy and much louder than a whisper. It is a worthy example of the butterfly 🦋 effect… with the flap of a wing, worlds are altered.
I used to say, "I'm so up the butt of my folk's relationship no wonder I don't have enough time to have one of my own." And yet, now that they are gone, I realize I've been able to keep a love I had that started in 1996 alive and still hot. Over a quarter of a century. I knew him a decade before we got involved. We were never committed and yet, we've been that safe but extravagantly healing erotic hum that has deepened over time and the friendship has strengthened. I realized that some of my issues with it before were really my mother's issues with my dad. One of the best parts of living an examined life is as Rilke said, "...living into the answers." My folks needed a buffer. I no longer need to be a buffer for two who were so good to me. Another man that I had an ignition with in 1984 thought he was dying and reached out. My twelve years with cancer have taught me about radical remissions, epigenetics, and he is on a healing road. So much more emotionally cognizant than the other one. Each human has their gifts. Each relationship has their lessons. I really loved this article. It's deep and significant. Can't wait to read more of your gifts to the world.