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May 25·edited May 25Liked by <Mary L. Tabor>

Your writing is amazing. This the first place I'm feeling the anger-sharp, sharp, sharp. In the first sections, the sadness and humor have kept it sheathed. I can't wait to see where we are going. My only frustration with the serialization is not being able to easily check back and catch the beginnings of the recurring threads. I should pace myself, I have a whole holiday weekend!

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May 25·edited May 25Author

Oh, wow. Your saying this means so much. I feel encouraged and "bolstered" too even though that's an upholster-word. So now I'm making up words because I can't find the right one to say truly thank you.

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the jury is out on whether i fully understand this one like an abstract painting i guess you gotta circle it

"red zin!" i remember a woman telling me to bring over one summer night 20 years ago and we both knew what was gonna happen she said laughing "no sex before i get a foot rub" damnnn women ha

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Truth revealing and distorting itself from so many angles in this one. You’re a genius.

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Sep 29, 2023Liked by <Mary L. Tabor>

It's always hard to say 'the truth.' Maybe that's what the Japanese have already figured out. They've been thinking and feeling much longer than us.

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Such a great comment. Again, my heartfelt thanks.

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Aug 19, 2023Liked by <Mary L. Tabor>

Hey Mary,

You have managed to soften the sharp in your beautiful writing of memoir. I see resilience and strength throughout.

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Let's hope ... . Thank you, Isabelle.

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The ever-intriguing experience for me of reading this memoir serialized in short installments is in attempting to grasp a sense of the whole, which I still don't begin to approach. I can't glance ahead to see what the landscape looks like, So far, it isn't narratively propelled, though we get narrative. I've commented before about its associative flow. I feel at sea in its ebb and flow, the wash of Mary's feelings and her associative memories and reference points, as she, seemingly at sea herself in trying to achieve her own understanding, invites us to follow along. There's no meta narrative from a place of understanding and resolution. That's the way it seems so far. Maybe it changes. I don't know. It's a provocatively uncertain way to read. I'm liking it! I think others should come along.

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May 3Liked by <Mary L. Tabor>

Perfectly described A. Jay! It's my second time reading her memoir and I'm coming away with new thoughts and feelings about it, perhaps exactly because of how you described it, of nw knowing its landscape. It gives me a chance in this second reading to enjoy new views.

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Oh, Ollie, you are such a grand reader and commenter. It's as if we've really come to know each other through these exchanges. A gift in my life.

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May 3Liked by <Mary L. Tabor>

I feel the same Mary! It's been a huge gift for me to connect with you and your writing.

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Ah, form and meaning -- or aporia? I guess we'll see ...

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Those preciously sparkling edges can be SHARP, right? Another beautiful chapter, Mary. Thank you. ♥️

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What a terrific comment. The word “sharp” gives me such a sense of writing well this difficult personal tale. Thank you, Rebecca.

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i havenot read 1-11, so i really don't know where we are or how we got here. 12 was a taste, a good taste. i will get to 1-11, but 13 doesn't seem to move a story much. we met big hands in 12, along with his limp. I think "quite a dish" somehow dates the piece.

with love, Jeffrey

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If someone said, "Quite a dish" to me, I would hear a "come on" -- I guess that "dates" me. double entendre intended.

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“So, you need to forget?”

“How would you know what I need?”

How strangers talk to each other. When fragments of lives come together in public and private places.

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Yes. Thank you, Russell, for reading and commenting, Means much. ~ Mary

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