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Sep 12Liked by <Mary L. Tabor>

That kitchen! Why not cook in such a beautiful space? I do related to being the mad woman in search of the perfect recipe. Since it doesn't exist, it was a futile exercise that I couldn't recognize at the time. But I cannot imagine seeing my beloved kiss another; that would rob me of all my desire to cook anything for any one.

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I knowww ...

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Oh, man the title for this one just hit me. Ooof. Love your writing, Mary.

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Loving you back, Holly. You are, as I keep saying, such a generous soul and full of heart.

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Mar 25Liked by <Mary L. Tabor>

What a beautiful home you shared with D.! And what an amazing kitchen. I get a better sense of what you lost - almost like a fairy tale in reverse (the house does look almost like a little castle). I can see also why you loved D. He must have been a very youthful like man - though in this case, behaving like a teenager, or someone in a very late midlife crisis. But, before all this, he must have been a very fun companion.

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Yes, yes, and yes. I sound like Molly Bloom at the end of Ulysses. I did love him so much! He overwhelmed me--and isn't that how love should feel?

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Mar 25Liked by <Mary L. Tabor>

"Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" - Tennyson

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I think my wife would gladly sell me off as a sex slave to have that kitchen. Or...did I volunteer for that? That's probably it. O, the sacrifices we have to make for the women in our lives!

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Made me laugh, and I adore you more, Ben, with this comment. I love your sense of humor and your comments on this live tale.

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Sep 28, 2023Liked by <Mary L. Tabor>

The dessert story reminds me of airline instructions: "Put on your oxygen mask first before helping others." Sounds cruel, but it's compassion.

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I'd not ever thought of that, Bill--though I do think the water in the dessert story presents an even more difficult dilemma.

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This is mesmerizing. But I must say: I would kill for that kitchen. Well, maybe I wouldn’t kill, but I might maim...

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Love that you are reading this--and your comments are amazing ... big xo ~ Mary

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I love it, Mary. So much so that I just ordered the paperback. I don’t want to wait for the serialized installments, and, after all, I want a physical copy ❤️

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Oh, golly!

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I had the strangest sensation reading this, like the words were washing over me. Very evocative, and a beautiful way of telling a bit so beautiful experience. I've read the R. Akiva teaching before, and although at first it's surprising, it makes sense to prioritise yourself in that situation

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These are breathtaking words, Mary. ♥️

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You are a blessing, Rebecca. 💕

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Here is where life, memory, history, and dreams intermingle. Clear and often startling details, of scenes and emotions. Refrigerators, stolen kisses, Michelle wowing Paris, and not cooking anymore.

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That's a good take, Russell, on what I was trying to do in this chapter. I so appreciate the read and the insightful comment.

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Jul 6, 2023Liked by <Mary L. Tabor>

Incredibly interesting especially the part about fireflies, their behaviour and what happened after the bar encounter. Beautiful imagery too.

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Oh, Isabelle, means much. Thank you,

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I'm taken with your associative style in this memoir, like a dream (nightmare), a blur of experiences, the mind is struggling to see sense in, make meaning of. Like Charade, I think, as I recall it. The presentation of D and S is like that. Flashes in the memory. The kiss at the bar. Walking home alone. Coming upon them, confused, in the kitchen. I hear Henry Mancini. Are you Stanley Donen?

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You made me laugh with your last line. Your comment describes exactly what I was trying to do in this chapter--perhaps without fully realizing it at the time. When I posted yesterday, I did wonder if anyone would see that you describe.

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