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So much truth and wisdom. Thank you for this. I took down my online dating profiles for a wild summer romance with myself. It's been fabulous. I've gotten to know myself better and am confident it will make me more interesting and a better partner. I've also renewed my appreciation for the love of friendship.

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I wrote a book about online dating and evaluating my entire life with men in between two cancer treatments. Courting Me(n): Juggling Love, Lust, and Listening Within. I self published it but didn't push to sell it. Then I took it down a few years later because it revealed so much truly personal stuff. I thought I would edit it, but I haven't. The process of writing it, and putting it out into the world, even though I thought I wasn't ready was transformative. My goals for relationships, the authentic truly heart felt goals clarified and got better from that day forward. Did I do therapy? Yes. Did I work on loving myself? Yes. Did I clarify what I really want and need? Yes. My used book still sells for a little less than 4x what I charged for it. In July of 2019 3 copies were selling for $1479 and I have no idea why. Wonderful article. Thank you!

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So true. I wish I had known this in my teens and young adult years.

Thanks for writing, Mary.

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Jun 22, 2022Liked by <Mary L. Tabor>

Love the article. Couldn't be far from the truth. I stopped looking for love and prince charming once I realized I have to find out who I AM.....Love takes courage and strength to explore the unknown. Following our heart doesn't sound as easy anymore. Thank you Mary.

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Great Article. Written very nicely. Check out Mary's short stories; they are interesting and fun to read.

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