Each post better than the last... the advice written by kids is priceless. Thank you for sharing so openly and honestly of your experiences. Being "ironized" feels to me a lot more like you describe it - being ironed by life and flattened repeatedly. But I believe in hope and have seen life change for the better in an instant so I'm choosing to keep that perspective even when I'm feeling flattened by life.
Well, you already had me with , When Harry met Sally. And then The Princess and the Frog. Starting a series with a big smile has certainly set my mood. Here I am at Chapter 3.
“There was no noise”
I find myself attached to the page.
Oh wait, I’ve just started Chapter 4 , ah, the land of perfection and just like that I’m falling through a fictional time warp with you, into reality. As my friend’s nephew said to him while hiking as they confronted a Skunk , ‘It’s bad, Uncle Cass, it’s really bad ‘.
Oh, that explains it, dating . Ok , ok, I’ll shut up and keep reading.
I have a few ‘words of wonder’ that came to mind throughout. Feel free to apply where you think applicable. I already have. I’ll start with my grandmother’s comment , if she were still alive, ( incidentally , Rabbi Hillel’s quote was one of her favorites) Oy ve, Shtunk, heroine, strength, tears for the beauty of your son. Whispers of sadness. Gorgeous.
“…with tears withheld but visible inside his eyes. I think of the way a lake holds back the sea’s surge as a storm pushes its force from afar.”
I love this whole story, my apologies for laying it all out after ‘I closed the cover’. It seemed the most appropriate way. Your use of Disney , humor, love stories, interspersed with the inhales and exhales of your life, is simply wonderful. I am glad Kimberly Warner gently nudged me over here. All peppered with a dose of humility .
I’ve learned a few things, ‘keepers’ I call them.
The strength it takes to be honest with yourself and act on it.
Know where your fault line is, and remember to dance on either side of it.
(Re)Making Love~
thank you Mary, for sharing it all.
I will answer your question. I married my high school sweet heart. First true love. And always.
Oh, Lor, Such a wonderful comment about the whole memoir. Could you put it on NOTES, maybe? In any case, I love this comment, written so generously and openly and heart-baring, too! xo ~ Mary
ok so you love Hugh Grant lol gotta love Julia's line in Notting Hill "i'm just a girl standing in front of a boy, asking for him to love her" or something like that....it doesn't have a ton of Com but what about "A Walk on the Moon" Diane Lane, Vigo? now thats a good one
I am really enjoying your story, Mary. I look forward each evening to sitting down and reading a chapter. You are a gifted writer, and I am invested! The anecdotes from the kids were icing on the cake.
"Four Weddings and a Funeral" is also a fave of mine.
I like how your daughter shares this love for Rom Coms with you and you know when and where you watched them with her! I get the impression m. didn't care much for Rom Coms - or perhaps it's not mentioned because of his recent grief? If he did... the book may have turned out differently.
Makes me curious what it might have been like back in a primitive cave - no phone, mail, etc. No privacy, I presume. Our minds and emotions were 'born' in those millennia, not now. They are us.
PS one of my faves is Joe vs the Volcano. I quote it incessantly! 😍 "You're afraid of the commitment? You're gonna have to love and honor me for about 30 seconds."
Great great great. Laughed out loud. Also, so many comments about m. Oh boy. And yes. Let's hear it for Rom-Coms. For my interior see When Harry Met Sally and Notting Hill.
Great and open! Must have been somewhat difficult to keep the pen on paper. I guess airing out the dirty laundry is a good path to a clean soul. It gives me an opening to air out my early history and see if I could be so honest and remain interesting to my supposed readers.
Each post better than the last... the advice written by kids is priceless. Thank you for sharing so openly and honestly of your experiences. Being "ironized" feels to me a lot more like you describe it - being ironed by life and flattened repeatedly. But I believe in hope and have seen life change for the better in an instant so I'm choosing to keep that perspective even when I'm feeling flattened by life.
Susan, your words are an exact expression of my struggle: brilliant comment.
Well, you already had me with , When Harry met Sally. And then The Princess and the Frog. Starting a series with a big smile has certainly set my mood. Here I am at Chapter 3.
“There was no noise”
I find myself attached to the page.
Oh wait, I’ve just started Chapter 4 , ah, the land of perfection and just like that I’m falling through a fictional time warp with you, into reality. As my friend’s nephew said to him while hiking as they confronted a Skunk , ‘It’s bad, Uncle Cass, it’s really bad ‘.
Oh, that explains it, dating . Ok , ok, I’ll shut up and keep reading.
I have a few ‘words of wonder’ that came to mind throughout. Feel free to apply where you think applicable. I already have. I’ll start with my grandmother’s comment , if she were still alive, ( incidentally , Rabbi Hillel’s quote was one of her favorites) Oy ve, Shtunk, heroine, strength, tears for the beauty of your son. Whispers of sadness. Gorgeous.
“…with tears withheld but visible inside his eyes. I think of the way a lake holds back the sea’s surge as a storm pushes its force from afar.”
I love this whole story, my apologies for laying it all out after ‘I closed the cover’. It seemed the most appropriate way. Your use of Disney , humor, love stories, interspersed with the inhales and exhales of your life, is simply wonderful. I am glad Kimberly Warner gently nudged me over here. All peppered with a dose of humility .
I’ve learned a few things, ‘keepers’ I call them.
The strength it takes to be honest with yourself and act on it.
Know where your fault line is, and remember to dance on either side of it.
(Re)Making Love~
thank you Mary, for sharing it all.
I will answer your question. I married my high school sweet heart. First true love. And always.
Oh, Lor, Such a wonderful comment about the whole memoir. Could you put it on NOTES, maybe? In any case, I love this comment, written so generously and openly and heart-baring, too! xo ~ Mary
ok so you love Hugh Grant lol gotta love Julia's line in Notting Hill "i'm just a girl standing in front of a boy, asking for him to love her" or something like that....it doesn't have a ton of Com but what about "A Walk on the Moon" Diane Lane, Vigo? now thats a good one
I haven't watched that one in a while, but I remember liking it. Will have to give it another run.
its sorta if Bridges of Madison county happened in the Mrs. Maisel Catskills but better sex all around 😊🤣
Aurelia! That scene crushes me every time. So wonderful and sappy with romantic love. Enjoying a Chapter per day. Thanks for sharing.
Oh, CDUB, That means so much! Can't wait to hear more from you, ~ Mary
I am really enjoying your story, Mary. I look forward each evening to sitting down and reading a chapter. You are a gifted writer, and I am invested! The anecdotes from the kids were icing on the cake.
Oh my, Matthew Long, so glad and grateful that you are reading and commenting, too! Aren't those kids a "trip"! xo ~ Mary
"Four Weddings and a Funeral" is also a fave of mine.
I like how your daughter shares this love for Rom Coms with you and you know when and where you watched them with her! I get the impression m. didn't care much for Rom Coms - or perhaps it's not mentioned because of his recent grief? If he did... the book may have turned out differently.
I don't think I ever knew what m. thought about rom-coms--not for sure, anyway.
I'm not sure about m.'s 'honesty'... after he leaves you dangling for 2 months?
I love the comments of the kids. That's refreshingly honest.
And of course I love reading such a well written story!!
More about m. to come--and, you're right, I suspect, about his honesty. Maybe you're my good witch❣️.
“Play dead.” 😂😂😂😂
And I love this line of yours: And the break in my heart that is not his fault, widened.
Ah, Kimberly. I'll try that ... 🙏🏻
Kimberly, I quoted you (not by name--being careful) in the video on the post coming up on Friday here for q #3 about serializing on Substack: https://marytabor.substack.com/p/write-it-and-this-writing-life You're such a find!
This is getting real. The hearts breaks just as hard at 60, as it did at 16.
Ben, apologies for the late reply. Indeed, just as you say. xo ~ Mary
Makes me curious what it might have been like back in a primitive cave - no phone, mail, etc. No privacy, I presume. Our minds and emotions were 'born' in those millennia, not now. They are us.
Great insight! Love your comments.
PS one of my faves is Joe vs the Volcano. I quote it incessantly! 😍 "You're afraid of the commitment? You're gonna have to love and honor me for about 30 seconds."
Too good! Love this ...
This is brilliant. So many friends are doing the dating thing now, and oh the stories. Absolutely love the kid quotes!!!!
Love the comment! Thank you.
Those kids need bylines.
They do! 😍
Mary, oh, lover of the romcom of life, I think you need to know about my friend Billy Mernit. He wrote, as they say, the book on it, Writing the Romantic Comedy: https://www.amazon.com/Writing-Romantic-Anniversary-Expanded-Updated-dp-0062950266/dp/0062950266/ref=dp_ob_title_bk
Also has this old fashioned blog thing titled (would you believe) Living the Romantic Comedy: https://livingromcom.typepad.com/my_weblog/
Thank you for reading, A. Jay. I'm off the check to these links. Then off to find that rom-com life ... still searching. xo
Great great great. Laughed out loud. Also, so many comments about m. Oh boy. And yes. Let's hear it for Rom-Coms. For my interior see When Harry Met Sally and Notting Hill.
Love your "interior" and YOU! Thank you, Eleanor.
Great and open! Must have been somewhat difficult to keep the pen on paper. I guess airing out the dirty laundry is a good path to a clean soul. It gives me an opening to air out my early history and see if I could be so honest and remain interesting to my supposed readers.
Great comment, Edward. Yep, risky business--but then with writing, "risk" is the name of the game.